Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

8 practices

Self-compassion Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 3 Five minutes 4 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 8 A practitioner 7 Someone I care about 7

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 6 Getting ready for something 1 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Self-compassion

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 What anger actually is 58 Your sense of time 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 Treatment and medication 48 What ADHD actually is 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 Grounding and settling 34 When everything feels flat 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Cool the body first 25 Shame and stigma 25 Being seen and judged 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Making it stick 24 Breathing 24 Treatment and medication 23 Knowing your partner 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 19 Breaking the worry loop 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Shared spiritual life 16 What you are actually defending 14 Fondness and admiration 14 Emotions as signals 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Tolerate distress 12 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Rituals of connection 7 Shame 7 Affection and touch 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Rest and pacing 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 Repair after rupture 3 Living with uncertainty 3 When you go numb 3 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Find meaning 2 Meaning after harm 2 Safety and grounding 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 8 Under stress 2 In a change 2

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Everyone has something about themselves they wish were different, and something they cannot do reliably however much they mean to. Yours has a name and a good deal of research behind it, which is not the same as being uniquely broken.

Say this carefully, because there is a careless version that does real damage. Everyone is a bit ADHD is not what is meant, and it leaves a person…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 20:115

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.

Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.

Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 53:32

Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.

Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.

It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 7:156

Nothing here does the job on its own. Medication if it suits you, a few practical systems, something for the low mood and shame that has built up, and the people you live with brought into it.

The practical layer is the easiest to describe and the first to fall over, because whether you use a system at all depends on how you feel about…

LongerSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:153

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