Practices

Offer school again at ten, and at eleven, and after lunch. One refusal at half past seven should not be allowed to decide the whole day.

Morning dread usually peaks around the time they would be leaving and then drains away over a couple of hours. A child who could not face it at half…

Find one adult in the building the child already trusts, and have them meet the child at the entrance. The doorway is the hardest minute of the day.

The job is small and specific: be there at the door, walk with them to their locker, get them started, be findable later on. It turns the worst…

If getting to the appointment frightened you, then you have already done the first hard thing. Walking in and talking to a stranger about yourself is the ladder, not the preparation for it.

Nobody watching later can see it. What they see is someone sitting there talking, and they miss the week of dread and the near cancellation. Say it…