Practices

Hear this before you start rather than after: change here is gradual. Habits built over twenty years do not come apart in three weeks.

Waiting is genuinely harder with ADHD, and a treatment whose reward is months away is exactly the sort of thing that gets dropped in week five.…

If therapy for ADHD did little for your thirteen year old, that is not a sign they were not trying. The self monitoring it leans on is still being built at that age, and it builds later in ADHD than in most.

The practical reading is about timing rather than willingness. Younger teenagers usually do better when the adults around them change the setup at…

Before anything else, the people around the child need to understand what ADHD actually is. Everything else works better once that has happened.

The chain is quite direct. Understanding changes how behaviour gets read, how it is read sets what a parent expects, and expectations shape the tone…

Move the family's picture from a child who will not do as they are asked to a child whose capacity for holding themselves in place is genuinely limited. It is a change of category, not a softening.

The moral version has a quiet arrogance in it, the assumption that the child could manage if only they cared enough, and everyone in the house can…