Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Knowing your partner Five minutes Under stress Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 3 Five minutes 2

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 2 Me 2

Theme · Knowing your partner

Touch and bodywork 17 Grounding and settling 15 Your nervous system 13 The moment before you snap 10 Cool the body first 8 Breathing 8 Feelings and focus 8 Feeling from the inside 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Staying regulated in conflict 6 The fear underneath anger 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Choosing your response 5 Tolerate distress 5 Equanimity and perspective 4 Medication and how it works 4 Moving your body 4 The cost of avoiding 4 What anger actually is 4 Listening and understanding 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 What worry does 3 Question the thought 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Systems for daily life 2 Knowing your partner 2 When everything feels flat 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Practising under provocation 2 Screens and attention 2 Self-compassion 2 Shame 2 Shame and stigma 2 Structure and routine 2 Get started 2 Treatment and medication 2 Growing empathy 2 When you use something to cope 2 Your sense of time 1 Letting it out safely 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Let the wave come 1 Emotions as signals 1 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 Rest and pacing 1 Making it stick 1 Rebuild trust 1 Calm the body 1 What you are actually defending 1 Working with anger 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 6 Under stress 2

Under the reactive feeling you show, anger or coldness, there is a softer primary one: fear, hurt, or loneliness. Reach for that and share it.

The heat we show a partner, criticism or withdrawal, is usually a secondary emotion covering a tender primary one underneath. Naming the softer…

Five minutesKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:16

If you are the one who goes quiet and pulls away, name the fear behind it and step back in: I shut you out because I was afraid of failing you.

Withdrawing looks like coldness but is usually self-protection from a fear of not being enough. Coming out from behind the wall, naming the fear, and…

Five minutesKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 40:60

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