Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

What anger actually is Five minutes Under stress Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 16 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 4 A practitioner 4 Me 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · What anger actually is

Touch and bodywork 17 Grounding and settling 15 Your nervous system 13 The moment before you snap 10 Breathing 8 Feelings and focus 8 Cool the body first 8 Feeling from the inside 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Staying regulated in conflict 6 The fear underneath anger 5 Choosing your response 5 Tolerate distress 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Moving your body 4 What anger actually is 4 The cost of avoiding 4 Medication and how it works 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Question the thought 3 Listening and understanding 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 What worry does 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Systems for daily life 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Practising under provocation 2 Screens and attention 2 Self-compassion 2 Shame 2 Shame and stigma 2 Structure and routine 2 Treatment and medication 2 Knowing your partner 2 Get started 2 Growing empathy 2 When everything feels flat 2 When you use something to cope 2 Let the wave come 1 Letting it out safely 1 Your sense of time 1 Calm the body 1 Emotions as signals 1 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 Rest and pacing 1 Working with anger 1 Rebuild trust 1 Making it stick 1 What you are actually defending 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 35 After a row 19 Under stress 4 When apart 1 In a change 1

People say true things when they are angry, even when they say them badly. Listen past the delivery for what is being defended.

Keeping face takes effort, and anger spends the effort elsewhere, so what comes out is closer to the bone than the careful version would have been.…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 4:148

Nobody should tell you your anger is always useless. In a prison, a war, or a house where someone is dangerous, it is doing a job.

Advice that ignores where you actually live is easy to dismiss, and rightly so. The aim is not to strip the response out but to get it calibrated:…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 42:41

Anger that shows up when you are running late, when plans change, or when somebody will not do it your way is usually anxiety in a louder coat.

The pattern is easy to see once you look for it. Things are fine while everything goes to plan, and the temper arrives the moment the plan does not…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 70:19

Anger built on suspicion sits along a long line. At one end is sensible wariness that has kept people safe, and at the far end is a threat that is not there at all.

The useful question is where on that line a particular worry sits, asked honestly rather than settled in advance. Ordinary caution can simply be…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 5:8

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