Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

The cost of avoiding Coping, mostly Under stress Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 2 A practitioner 2 Me 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 8 Coping, mostly 2

Theme · The cost of avoiding

Staying regulated in conflict 20 Choosing your response 17 The fear underneath anger 14 The moment before you snap 14 Cool the body first 12 Your nervous system 11 Answering bids 9 What anger actually is 8 Feelings and focus 8 Equanimity and perspective 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Affection and touch 6 Knowing your partner 5 What you are actually defending 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Making it stick 4 Practising under provocation 4 Tolerate distress 4 Calm the body 3 Safety and grounding 3 Listening and understanding 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Name what you feel 3 Patience and trust 2 When everything feels flat 2 Grounding and settling 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Emotions as signals 2 Question the thought 2 Rebuild trust 2 Meaning after harm 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Shame and stigma 1 Breathing 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 When you use something to cope 1 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 Growing empathy 1 Listen to the body 1 Medication and how it works 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Repair after rupture 1 Shame 1 Act on your values 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What worry does 1 Your window of tolerance 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 19 In a change 3 After a row 2 Under stress 2

If a child can go to the school office whenever they like and stay as long as they like, that is an exit rather than a support. Agree a length, and a gap between visits.

Ten minutes, twice a day, with a return to lessons afterwards, is a support. Open ended visits from the first flutter of nerves onwards teach a very…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 62:8

When the fear is about being seen, being asked, being judged, you can build the steps out of real moments: the doorway, the corridor, the dining hall, answering once in a lesson.

Fear of a whole building cannot be practised. Fear of walking into the dining hall at half past twelve can. Make each step small enough to be boring…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 90:11

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