Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Getting assessed and diagnosed Coping, mostly Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Me 2 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed

Staying regulated in conflict 20 Choosing your response 17 The fear underneath anger 14 The moment before you snap 14 Cool the body first 12 Your nervous system 11 Answering bids 9 What anger actually is 8 Feelings and focus 8 Equanimity and perspective 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Affection and touch 6 Knowing your partner 5 Facing it a step at a time 4 Tolerate distress 4 Practising under provocation 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Making it stick 4 What you are actually defending 4 Listening and understanding 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Working with anger 3 Rebuild trust 2 Grounding and settling 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Question the thought 2 Emotions as signals 2 Patience and trust 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Meaning after harm 2 When everything feels flat 2 Ride the urge 2 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 When you use something to cope 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Breathing 1 Shame and stigma 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Shame 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What worry does 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Repair after rupture 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Medication and how it works 1 Act on your values 1 Listen to the body 1 Growing empathy 1

Approach

ADHD skills 3 Core 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 54 Under stress 4 Coming and going 2 In a change 2 After a row 1

When someone says their heart races on their medication, ask whether it ever did before they started. It is the cheapest question you have and it usually sorts the answer out.

Go looking for the old settings: waiting to be called on in class, standing outside a room before a difficult conversation, three in the morning with…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:32

Expect more anxiety, low mood, drinking and drug use in the young people coming through now. And expect the boys to say less about it, so go looking for irritability, trouble and substances instead of waiting to be told.

Ask parents what they are seeing rather than only what they have been told, and ask the young person directly and privately. Screening that rests on…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 21:83

Attention and impulse problems that appear for the first time in middle age or later are not ADHD arriving late. They need a doctor to look, not a prescription.

Several conditions affecting the frontal lobes can show up first as new disinhibition, poor judgement or a change in personality, and some are…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:7

When a child with attention difficulties is also at war with every instruction, that pairing is worth taking to someone early rather than waiting to see whether it settles.

The two travel together often, and a minority of children follow a path from constant defiance into more serious trouble later. Every stage of that…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:216

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