Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesTheme · Meaning after harm
Staying regulated in conflict 20Choosing your response 17The moment before you snap 14The fear underneath anger 14Cool the body first 12Your nervous system 11Answering bids 9Feelings and focus 8What anger actually is 8Equanimity and perspective 8Touch and bodywork 7Affection and touch 6Knowing your partner 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4What you are actually defending 4Tolerate distress 4Facing it a step at a time 4Practising under provocation 4Making it stick 4Name what you feel 3When anger turns to harm 3Calm the body 3Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Safety and grounding 3Working with anger 3Rebuild trust 2The cost of avoiding 2Feeling from the inside 2Meaning after harm 2Emotions as signals 2When everything feels flat 2Question the thought 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Grounding and settling 2Patience and trust 2Growing empathy 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1When you use something to cope 1Care for yourself in loss 1Bringing the future closer 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Listen to the body 1Repair after rupture 1Breathing 1Shame 1Shame and stigma 1Shared spiritual life 1Medication and how it works 1Validate yourself and others 1Act on your values 1What worry does 1Your window of tolerance 1
When · Under stress
What happened to you is not who you are. Speak to yourself as you would to someone you love who was hurt.
Harm done to you is not a verdict on your worth. Trade the harsh inner voice for a kinder, truer one.
When trauma tells you that you are utterly alone and beyond help, treat that as the wound talking, not the truth. Do not despair.
A common voice in trauma says you are cast out, unreachable, beyond care. It feels total, but it is a symptom, not a fact, and acting against it,…
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