Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Practising under provocation Struggling right now Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 2 A practitioner 2

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 4 Getting ready for something 2 Struggling right now 2

Theme · Practising under provocation

Grounding and settling 28 Cool the body first 19 The moment before you snap 18 Touch and bodywork 15 Your nervous system 13 What anger actually is 12 Choosing your response 11 Systems for daily life 9 Breathing 9 Moving your body 8 Screens and attention 8 Feelings and focus 8 The cost of avoiding 8 Feeling from the inside 7 Shame 7 Medication and how it works 7 Breaking the worry loop 6 Equanimity and perspective 6 What worry does 6 Tolerate distress 5 Treatment and medication 5 Bringing the future closer 5 Shame and stigma 5 When everything feels flat 4 The fear underneath anger 4 Food, caffeine and fuel 4 Letting it out safely 4 Get started 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 When anger turns to harm 3 Being seen and judged 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Question the thought 3 Structure and routine 2 Your sense of time 2 Self-compassion 2 Practising under provocation 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Making it stick 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Remembering to do it 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Rest and pacing 1 When you use something to cope 1 Panic and the body 1 What you are actually defending 1

When · Under stress

After a row 3 Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2

Your body treats an insult with the same urgency as a threat to your safety, and the two are not the same at all. Saying that to yourself plainly, while it is happening, takes some of the false emergency out of it.

Have a short line ready and use it while the heat is still rising. Nothing here is actually being taken from me. It will not make the sting vanish…

A minutePractising under provocationCBTQur’an 3:186

Ask how settled you are and you will usually say fine. Look at your breathing instead, since it is generally more honest than the answer you give.

Quick, shallow breathing high in the chest usually means the moment is not over yet, whatever you have just told someone. In a session a therapist…

A minutePractising under provocationCBTQur’an 2:153

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