Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Being seen and judged Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 3 A practitioner 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Being seen and judged

The moment before you snap 32 Cool the body first 31 Grounding and settling 30 Choosing your response 28 Your nervous system 24 Touch and bodywork 22 What anger actually is 20 Staying regulated in conflict 20 The fear underneath anger 18 Feelings and focus 16 Equanimity and perspective 15 Tolerate distress 11 Breathing 10 The cost of avoiding 10 Answering bids 9 Systems for daily life 9 Feeling from the inside 9 Practising under provocation 8 Screens and attention 8 Shame 8 Medication and how it works 8 Moving your body 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 What worry does 7 Breaking the worry loop 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Bringing the future closer 6 When everything feels flat 6 Shame and stigma 6 Making it stick 6 Affection and touch 6 Facing it a step at a time 5 Knowing your partner 5 Emotions as signals 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Question the thought 5 Treatment and medication 5 What you are actually defending 5 Obsessions and compulsions 4 Growing empathy 4 Get started 4 Letting it out safely 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Listening and understanding 3 Being seen and judged 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Safety and grounding 3 Working with anger 3 Rebuild trust 2 Patience and trust 2 Self-compassion 2 Meaning after harm 2 Ride the urge 2 Structure and routine 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 When you use something to cope 2 Treatment and medication 2 Your sense of time 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Rest and pacing 1 Repair after rupture 1 Remembering to do it 1 Panic and the body 1 Act on your values 1 Listen to the body 1

Approach

CBT 2 Narrative 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 24 Under stress 3 In a change 2 Coming and going 1

If most of your talking happens somewhere everything gets counted, likes, views, replies, then of course a room full of people feels like a scoreboard too. The habit was learned somewhere real.

Notice when the feeling arrives. It is usually before anyone has said anything: a sense that a number is being kept on you. Then name where you…

A minuteBeing seen and judgedCBTQur’an 3:29

Unless you have turned up somewhere in fancy dress, you are not the main thing on anyone's mind. Most of the people around you are working out where to park and what they are going to eat.

This is not a trick for making the feeling vanish. The feeling usually hangs about for a while. It is more that when you walk in and the whole room…

A minuteBeing seen and judgedCBTQur’an 49:12

Sometimes the help you need is not insight. It is someone sitting with you while you sort out what actually happened this week and which bit of it mattered.

When anxiety is running at full speed, everything arrives at the same volume and nothing can be ranked. A bad week becomes one undifferentiated bad…

Twenty minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 15:97

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