Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
Theme · Bringing the future closer
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 31Grounding and settling 30Choosing your response 28Your nervous system 24Touch and bodywork 22What anger actually is 20Staying regulated in conflict 20The fear underneath anger 18Feelings and focus 16Equanimity and perspective 15Tolerate distress 11The cost of avoiding 10Breathing 10Answering bids 9Feeling from the inside 9Systems for daily life 9Practising under provocation 8Screens and attention 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 8Shame 8What worry does 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Shame and stigma 6Bringing the future closer 6When anger turns to harm 6Making it stick 6When everything feels flat 6Affection and touch 6Breaking the worry loop 6Question the thought 5Knowing your partner 5Facing it a step at a time 5What you are actually defending 5Emotions as signals 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Treatment and medication 5Get started 4Obsessions and compulsions 4Letting it out safely 4Growing empathy 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Listening and understanding 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Working with anger 3Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Self-compassion 2Meaning after harm 2Ride the urge 2Structure and routine 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2When you use something to cope 2Treatment and medication 2Your sense of time 2Care for yourself in loss 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Your window of tolerance 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Shared spiritual life 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1Remembering to do it 1Panic and the body 1Act on your values 1Listen to the body 1
When · Under stress

Every interruption charges you twice. There is the chance you never come back to the work at all, and there is the effort it takes to come back when you do.

This is why a day of successfully resisting everything can still end with nothing left in the tank. You count the times you got pulled away, feel…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 99:8

By the time the motivation turns up, the moment to act has usually gone. Thursday night panic about a report due on Friday is real motivation, just delivered too late to be any use.

Worth saying to yourself without contempt, because the pattern is not a preference for pressure. The job is to move the feeling earlier rather than…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 89:24

That Thursday night feeling, fully motivated at last with no good option remaining, is a trap in the timing rather than a fault in you.

It is worth naming, because most people have been told the opposite about themselves for years. The scramble is what happens when the deadline is the…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

When the panic finally shows up, take it as news about the past rather than a call to action. It means the good options went a while ago.

You can use the sentence on yourself in the moment: by the time I feel it, it is already too late. Not as a beating, just as information. Two things…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 89:24

Someone running just ahead of the avalanche has nowhere to stand and think. Reflection needs a bit of room, and a life with no room in it cannot make any.

This is why so much sensible advice slides straight off. Before asking what the wisest option is, something usually has to come off the pile: fewer…

LongerBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

Nobody decides well mid-panic. So cutting the number of panics is itself a way of making better decisions, even if nothing about your judgement changes at all.

It is slow work and it is usually the real work: fewer things said yes to, earlier starts, deadlines negotiated before they are sitting on top of…

LongerBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 2:197

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