Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Repair after rupture Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 1 Me 1

Theme · Repair after rupture

The moment before you snap 32 Cool the body first 31 Grounding and settling 30 Choosing your response 28 Your nervous system 24 Touch and bodywork 22 Staying regulated in conflict 20 What anger actually is 20 The fear underneath anger 18 Feelings and focus 16 Equanimity and perspective 15 Tolerate distress 11 Breathing 10 The cost of avoiding 10 Systems for daily life 9 Feeling from the inside 9 Answering bids 9 Screens and attention 8 Moving your body 8 Medication and how it works 8 Practising under provocation 8 Shame 8 What worry does 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Affection and touch 6 Making it stick 6 When anger turns to harm 6 When everything feels flat 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Shame and stigma 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Question the thought 5 Treatment and medication 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 What you are actually defending 5 Emotions as signals 5 Knowing your partner 5 Letting it out safely 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Obsessions and compulsions 4 Get started 4 Growing empathy 4 Calm the body 3 Being seen and judged 3 Let the wave come 3 Listening and understanding 3 Name what you feel 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Safety and grounding 3 Working with anger 3 Rebuild trust 2 Patience and trust 2 Treatment and medication 2 Meaning after harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 When you use something to cope 2 Ride the urge 2 Your sense of time 2 Structure and routine 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Act on your values 1 Remembering to do it 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Rest and pacing 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Repair after rupture 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Panic and the body 1 Listen to the body 1

When · Under stress

After a row 15 Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 1

Offer your spouse one clear reassurance today: I am here, we are okay.

When they wobble, say the steadying thing plainly rather than assuming they know.

A minuteRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

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