Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Righteous anger and perfectionism Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 3 A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

The moment before you snap 32 Cool the body first 31 Grounding and settling 30 Choosing your response 28 Your nervous system 24 Touch and bodywork 22 Staying regulated in conflict 20 What anger actually is 20 The fear underneath anger 18 Feelings and focus 16 Equanimity and perspective 15 Tolerate distress 11 The cost of avoiding 10 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 9 Answering bids 9 Systems for daily life 9 Shame 8 Medication and how it works 8 Moving your body 8 Practising under provocation 8 Screens and attention 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 What worry does 7 Affection and touch 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Shame and stigma 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Making it stick 6 When everything feels flat 6 Treatment and medication 5 Question the thought 5 What you are actually defending 5 Emotions as signals 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Knowing your partner 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Growing empathy 4 Letting it out safely 4 Get started 4 Obsessions and compulsions 4 Let the wave come 3 Listening and understanding 3 Name what you feel 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Being seen and judged 3 Calm the body 3 Safety and grounding 3 Your sense of time 2 Self-compassion 2 Structure and routine 2 Ride the urge 2 Treatment and medication 2 Rebuild trust 2 Patience and trust 2 Meaning after harm 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 When you use something to cope 2 Remembering to do it 1 Repair after rupture 1 Rest and pacing 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Listen to the body 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Act on your values 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Panic and the body 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 13 Under stress 3 After a row 1

Certainty feels good. That sudden clean sense of knowing exactly who is in the wrong is part of what keeps anger coming back, so it is worth noticing as a pleasure rather than as proof.

Anger tidies things up. The doubt goes, the mixed feelings go, and for a moment you know where you stand. Take that away without putting anything in…

A minuteRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 53:32

When someone is in full flood, leaving is allowed. Getting out of the way of a person who is past listening is a skill, not a defeat.

You can say where you are going and that you will come back to it, which keeps it from reading as punishment. This matters most for anyone who was…

A minuteRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 42:41

When something is genuinely wrong, try saying the whole sentence: this is wrong, it should not be like this, and it is. Then ask how it came to be, before asking what to do.

The word should keeps you in the courtroom, where the only available outcome is a verdict. Asking why moves you into how the thing actually happened,…

Five minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 49:9

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