Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Anger Growing empathy Twenty minutes Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 14 Five minutes 14 Twenty minutes 4 Longer 4

Who it is written for

Me 4 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 1

Theme · Growing empathy

What anger actually is 10 The moment before you snap 8 The fear underneath anger 6 Cool the body first 6 When anger turns to harm 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Growing empathy 4 Choosing your response 4 Practising under provocation 3 Making it stick 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 What you are actually defending 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 When apart 1

You cannot decide to feel closer to people. You can decide to eat with them, walk with them, sit near them and say one true thing, and the closeness tends to follow.

The chemistry gets talked about a great deal and it is the least useful part. What you can act on is the diary: a standing meal with someone, a hand…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:21

Go long enough without company and almost anyone will do. That is worth knowing about yourself, and worth watching for in someone who lives alone.

Loneliness does not make you a poor judge of character on purpose. It just lowers the bar until whoever turns up seems fine. The steadier answer is…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:8

Four ordinary things take the edge off a hot temper: being touched by someone you trust, eating with people, moving your body hard enough to breathe, and sitting still for a few minutes a day.

None of them are about anger directly, which is the point. Exercise lowers what you are already carrying before the argument starts. A shared meal…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 76:8

If eating together helps, it is the together that is helping. Being full is not a route to feeling close, and treating it as one goes wrong quickly for some people.

Sit down with somebody once a week and eat whatever you were going to eat anyway. That is the whole practice. If you notice yourself reaching for…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 90:14

There is more about anger than the practices: the anger area has the themes and the courses too.