Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
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Theme · Shame
When someone tells you they have failed, the most useful thing you can do is nothing clever. Let your face stay soft and keep looking at them.
Shame is braced for disgust, so it reads your face before it hears your words. A quick reassurance can even land as a rush to move on. Slower is…
When someone's shame fills the room, check your own state before you say anything. If you start to shrink, or to worry that you are handling this badly, they will feel it.
Shame is catching. The particular risk is a quiet spiral of your own, along the lines of I am no good at this, which pulls you out of the room at the…
You did not choose which things hurt you. Where you are tender was set long before you had any say in it, and the only live question is what you do with it now.
This is worth saying out loud between two people, because each usually thinks their own soft spot is embarrassing and the other's is obvious. Try…
There is more about low mood and hard feelings than the practices: the low mood and hard feelings area has the themes and the courses too.