Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
4 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Repair after rupture
Approach
Name one old hurt with your spouse that still aches, gently and without re-litigating.
When you were not there that day, it marked me. Naming it is not attacking, it is asking to heal.
When your spouse names a wound you caused, listen without defending, even once.
Not I didn't mean to. First: I hear that I hurt you, and I am sorry. Defence can wait.
Where the harm has truly stopped, begin to set down a grievance you have carried.
Not forgetting, releasing. Once the wound is no longer being made, let it start to close.
Revisit a past fight only once you are both calm, from the balcony, without climbing back into it.
Processing means talking about the incident, not re-fighting it. Wait until the heat is gone.
There is more about your marriage than the practices: the your marriage area has the themes and the courses too.