Practices

Going from talking online to talking in person is not one more step up the same ladder. It is a different ladder, and it deserves rungs of its own.

Those rungs might run from voice notes, to a phone call, to a video call with the camera on, to meeting one person you already know somewhere quiet,…

When a step does not happen, cut the next one down without any speech about it. Smaller, and carry on.

Progress here is often slower than anyone would like, and that is the method working rather than the method failing. What does real damage is a run…

A group can help a great deal, and it is rarely the place to begin. Being in a room of people is a strong dose, and doses climb rather than start at the top.

Left too early it often ends with someone dropping out, and dropping out gets read as proof they were right about themselves all along. Once there is…

You will probably not feel yourself getting better. One day you will be halfway through a chat with a stranger and realise you are doing the thing you could not do.

This is worth knowing at the start, because the middle is where people decide nothing is happening and stop. The change comes in pieces too small to…