Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices

When anger turns to harm Five minutes Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 5 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 5 A practitioner 5 Me 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 5 Struggling right now 4

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 3 On my own 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Medication and how it works 63 Getting assessed and diagnosed 41 Your nervous system 37 What anger actually is 36 Systems for daily life 31 Equanimity and perspective 29 Exercise, food and other supports 27 Your sense of time 25 Get started 23 Touch and bodywork 23 What ADHD actually is 22 Bringing the future closer 21 Treatment and medication 20 When everything feels flat 19 The moment before you snap 19 The fear underneath anger 18 Feelings and focus 17 Choosing your response 17 What worry does 17 Moving your body 17 Practising under provocation 17 Screens and attention 16 Grounding and settling 14 What you are actually defending 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 13 Emotions as signals 12 Structure and routine 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 11 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Being seen and judged 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Growing empathy 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Knowing your partner 8 Treatment and medication 8 Making it stick 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Remembering to do it 6 Cool the body first 6 Shame and stigma 6 Listening and understanding 5 Self-compassion 5 When you use something to cope 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Tolerate distress 5 Reading, numbers and learning differences 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Shared spiritual life 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Rituals of connection 3 Use your strengths 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Panic and the body 2 Repair after rupture 2 Meaning after harm 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Your worth is not conditional 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Help someone grieving 1 Get it out of your head 1 Affection and touch 1 Rest and pacing 1 When you go numb 1 Face it gently 1 Shame 1 Question the thought 1 Calm the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Ask and say no well 1 Let the wave come 1

When

Under stress 3 Any ordinary day 2

Harm that comes out of feeling threatened and harm that is done coldly, to get something, are not one problem wearing two faces. Before deciding what would help, work out which one you are looking at.

The first kind runs hot. A person feels cornered, the body goes off, and the damage is done inside a few seconds. The second is quiet and aimed, with…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:42

Some true things cannot be said early. A reframe that would land well in the tenth conversation will end the second one.

Ideas about what really drives harm, or about a person being more than the worst thing they have done, are easily heard as excusing it or as blaming…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 17:53

Ask it plainly. Do you think you are a threat to anyone you love? A vague anger problem turns into something workable the moment it has a name attached to it.

Then keep going, because the follow up questions carry most of the weight. Has there been any thought of killing someone, or of dying. What is in the…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 5:32

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

An act meant to be heard rather than to end a life can still end one. Whatever you believe about the intent, lethality is a separate question and it always gets asked.

The ways this happens are ordinary and awful. A method more dangerous than the person realised. The friend who was meant to arrive, arriving late. A…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 25:68

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