Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

10 practices
How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Breathing
Medication and how it works 63Getting assessed and diagnosed 41Your nervous system 37What anger actually is 36Systems for daily life 31Equanimity and perspective 29Exercise, food and other supports 27Your sense of time 25Touch and bodywork 23Get started 23What ADHD actually is 22Bringing the future closer 21Treatment and medication 20The moment before you snap 19When everything feels flat 19The fear underneath anger 18Feelings and focus 17Practising under provocation 17What worry does 17Moving your body 17Choosing your response 17Screens and attention 16What you are actually defending 14Grounding and settling 14Food, caffeine and fuel 13Emotions as signals 12Structure and routine 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 11Breathing 10Feeling from the inside 9The cost of avoiding 9Being seen and judged 9Staying regulated in conflict 9Growing empathy 9Rebuilding trust 9Treatment and medication 8Knowing your partner 8Making it stick 7Breaking the worry loop 7Cool the body first 6Remembering to do it 6Shame and stigma 6When anger turns to harm 5Tolerate distress 5Listening and understanding 5When you use something to cope 5Self-compassion 5Reading, numbers and learning differences 4Shared spiritual life 4Facing it a step at a time 4Posture and how you carry yourself 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Use your strengths 3Rituals of connection 3Meaning after harm 2Anger, alcohol and the body 2Act on your values 2Work with your brain 2Find meaning 2Repair after rupture 2Panic and the body 2Working with anger 1Shame 1Question the thought 1Living with uncertainty 1When you go numb 1Notice the pattern and flex 1Your window of tolerance 1Rest and pacing 1Your worth is not conditional 1Let the wave come 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Face it gently 1Calm the body 1Ask and say no well 1Affection and touch 1
When

Put a hand just below your ribs and let it move. Most of us breathe up in the chest, and the settling effect comes from lower down, where the diaphragm can actually shift.

You can check this lying down with a book on your stomach. If the book rises, the breath is going where you want it. If only your shoulders move, it…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 15:29

A child cannot watch their own breathing, so give them something to watch instead. Bubbles through a wand show the out breath as it happens: too hard and it bursts, too weak and nothing comes.

Smelling a flower and then blowing it out gives each half of the breath a picture. The bubble wand is better still, because it answers back straight…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 81:18

There is no breath that calms everyone. The one that settles your friend may leave you worse, and that is information about your body rather than a failure in you.

Labels like calming or energising are a rough guide at best. What actually happens depends on how you usually breathe, what your body has been…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 50:16

Start with a count of four in and four out, then drop the count. Once the rhythm is there your body will choose its own length: six and six, eight and eight, whatever settles you.

The count is scaffolding. Holding onto it too long turns the practice into something you can pass or fail, which is the opposite of the point.…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 81:18

Four in, hold four, four out, hold four. The holds are the strong part of this one, and they stay optional every single time.

Some people find the pauses deeply settling. Others meet the edge of what they can tolerate there, especially at the bottom of the exhale. Both are…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 65:7

Rather than pulling in a big breath, breathe gently and slightly less than you want to, then wait. The deep breath that arrives by itself does more than the one you force.

Keep the breathing light and unhurried, and after a while a mild hunger for air builds. Let it build a little. At some point the body takes a fuller…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 94:5

Holding your breath for a moment makes the next one deeper, which sounds backwards until you know why. The urge to breathe is driven by carbon dioxide, not by a shortage of air.

Sensors in the brainstem watch the level of carbon dioxide in your blood, and a pause, especially after breathing out, lets it rise a little. The…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 15:29

The three ordinary breaths between rounds are not a gap in the practice. They are where you find out what the practice did.

Come back to normal breathing and check the body, the thoughts, the mood, the energy. Do not analyse it, just register it. Going round after round…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 39:23

To find the soft ocean sounding breath, breathe out through your mouth as if fogging up a mirror. Then keep that same slight narrowing at the throat with your mouth closed, and let the sound get quieter and quieter.

Starting with the mirror gives you something to do instead of an anatomy lesson about a part of the throat you cannot see. Once the mouth closes, the…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 7:205

Close your right nostril with your thumb and breathe in through the left. Swap fingers at the top, breathe out through the right, in through the right, then out through the left. That is one round.

The fiddliness is not a flaw in the design. Keeping track of which nostril and which stage takes up just enough of your mind that there is little…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 13:28

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