Practices

Anger arrives with a rush of energy that feels strong and clear, and that is a large part of why it keeps coming back. The bill turns up hours later, long after the payment.

Worth saying plainly, because people assume they lose their temper against their own interests. In the moment it works: bigger, faster, less…

Most of what sets you off is meaning rather than sensation: somebody's tone, a look you have seen before, what you take it to say about you.

That is useful, because it tells you where to aim. Sensory tricks can steady the body while the storm passes, and they will not touch the…

Look along a shelf of anger books and the advice converges: bring the body down first. Mostly what differs is the packaging, so take whichever version you will actually use.

Slow breathing, a walk, cold water, wudu, muscle release, one long breath before you answer. Arguing about which is best is usually a way of doing…

There is a fair worry that punch shaped exercise simply practises the punch. The test is easy: if the angry story is still running in your head, it is rehearsal.

You can check mid set. Ask what you are actually attending to. Counting, the burn in your arms and the sound of your breathing are all signs the…

Rather than noting each impulse in your head, touch a finger for each one. Thumb to index, thumb to middle, and on round the hand.

Watching impulses go past is harder to sustain than it sounds once you are stirred up, and a purely mental tally tends to slip away without you…

When one thing fills your view, everything around it stops registering. You can be staring hard and taking in almost nothing.

This is why an angry judgement can feel so sharp and turn out to be so poor. The person in front of you has become the whole picture, and the details…