Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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The fear underneath anger Five minutes Getting ready for something Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Me 2 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now · Getting ready for something

Coping, mostly 18 Struggling right now 9 Getting ready for something 2

Theme · The fear underneath anger

Medication and how it works 36 Food, caffeine and fuel 12 Choosing your response 11 Cool the body first 9 Your nervous system 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 The moment before you snap 8 Practising under provocation 8 What ADHD actually is 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 6 Treatment and medication 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Touch and bodywork 5 Grounding and settling 5 Your sense of time 4 Bringing the future closer 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 When everything feels flat 4 Remembering to do it 4 What anger actually is 4 Making it stick 3 Tolerate distress 3 Feelings and focus 3 Moving your body 3 Systems for daily life 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Breathing 2 Being seen and judged 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Shame and stigma 2 Treatment and medication 1 What you are actually defending 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Structure and routine 1 Screens and attention 1 Get started 1 Feeling from the inside 1 When you use something to cope 1 Living with uncertainty 1

A handful of old alarms account for most sudden anger: threat to life or limb, insult, harm coming near your family, someone in your space, rivalry over a partner, and being trapped.

Having the short list in your head means you can name which one just went off rather than sitting in a fog of it. Insult belongs on the list because…

Five minutesThe fear underneath angerCoreQur’an 106:4

Two questions worth carrying about with you. Can you take an insult and leave it unanswered? Can you stay frightened without turning it into a row?

Both put the strength where it actually is. Not answering is usually read as losing, and it takes far more out of you than replying does. Ask them of…

Five minutesThe fear underneath angerCoreQur’an 41:30

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