Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 5 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 5 Me 1

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 9 Struggling right now 5 Getting ready for something 2

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 4 On my own 1

Theme · The cost of avoiding

Your nervous system 27 What anger actually is 20 Grounding and settling 16 Touch and bodywork 15 Screens and attention 14 Getting assessed and diagnosed 12 When everything feels flat 12 Medication and how it works 12 Shame and stigma 12 The moment before you snap 12 Equanimity and perspective 11 Get started 11 Feelings and focus 9 The fear underneath anger 9 Your sense of time 9 Obsessions and compulsions 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Cool the body first 8 Choosing your response 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Feeling from the inside 7 Emotions as signals 7 Systems for daily life 7 Breathing 7 What worry does 6 Shame 6 When you use something to cope 6 Remembering to do it 5 Reading, numbers and learning differences 5 The cost of avoiding 5 Growing empathy 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Treatment and medication 5 When you go numb 5 Moving your body 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Question the thought 4 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Tolerate distress 3 Structure and routine 3 Practising under provocation 3 Being seen and judged 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Treatment and medication 3 Self-compassion 2 Bringing the future closer 2 Making it stick 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Rest and pacing 1 Living with uncertainty 1 What you are actually defending 1 Letting it out safely 1

When

Under stress 3 Coming and going 1 Any ordinary day 1

Some people are not scared of the day, they are flattened by it. Staying home lifts the weight for an hour, then removes the few good things the day still held.

Low mood makes school heavy rather than dangerous: no energy, no interest, everything asking too much. Staying away helps at first and then takes…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 94:7

If staying home means an anxious child gets more of you, your comfort is quietly part of what keeps them there. That is not a failure of love.

This one is hard to see precisely because the soothing is kind and the distress is real. The usual shape is a fought over morning, the child stays,…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 65:2

On a day at home, be the person who supervises rather than the person who keeps them company. The warmth is not cancelled, it moves to the evening.

Hovering, chatting, sitting alongside them with a cup of tea: all of it is lovely, and all of it makes the day at home better than the day at school.…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 65:2

Find one adult in the building the child already trusts, and have them meet the child at the entrance. The doorway is the hardest minute of the day.

The job is small and specific: be there at the door, walk with them to their locker, get them started, be findable later on. It turns the worst…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 13:11

A plan followed on some days and not others can be worse than no plan at all. Choose the smallest version you are sure you can keep to, and keep to that.

When staying home works on one morning in four, that occasional success makes the pleading more determined rather than less. Cut the plan back until…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 18:23

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