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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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22 practices

Bringing the future closer A minute Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 22 Five minutes 27 Twenty minutes 9 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Me 22 A practitioner 18 Someone I care about 15 My husband or wife 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 17 Struggling right now 3 Getting ready for something 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 18 Both of us together 3 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Bringing the future closer

Staying regulated in conflict 46 The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 34 Grounding and settling 28 What anger actually is 26 Medication and how it works 25 Your nervous system 25 Systems for daily life 24 Bringing the future closer 22 The fear underneath anger 22 Answering bids 22 Get started 20 Treatment and medication 18 Your sense of time 17 Equanimity and perspective 17 Structure and routine 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Practising under provocation 14 Growing empathy 14 Making it stick 14 Knowing your partner 14 Affection and touch 14 Repair after rupture 13 Touch and bodywork 13 Feelings and focus 12 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Moving your body 9 Breathing 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 The cost of avoiding 9 When everything feels flat 9 Gratitude 9 Tolerate distress 8 Treatment and medication 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Listening and understanding 8 Being seen and judged 8 Remembering to do it 7 Screens and attention 7 Shared spiritual life 6 Rituals of connection 6 What worry does 6 Shame and stigma 6 What you are actually defending 6 Feeling from the inside 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 5 Emotions as signals 5 Question the thought 4 Self-compassion 4 Obsessions and compulsions 3 When you use something to cope 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 When anger turns to harm 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Panic and the body 2 Patience and trust 2 Meaning after harm 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Let the wave come 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Hold a boundary 2 Working with anger 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Calm the body 2 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Get it out of your head 1 Help someone grieving 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 When you go numb 1 Keep the bond 1 Listen to the body 1 Rest and pacing 1 Ask and say no well 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Act on your values 1

When

Any ordinary day 17 Under stress 4 After a row 1

Do not ask whether you feel like it. The answer is no, today and every other day. Ask how you will feel about it later.

The first question has only one answer and it never varies, which is why it ends up deciding everything. The second is answerable and it moves with…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 18:46

The job will not feel more pleasant on Thursday. It will be the same job, done tired, in less time, with somebody waiting. Later is not the easier option. It only looks that way from here.

There is a quiet assumption that willingness will turn up in the meantime. It does not. What changes is the conditions, and they get worse. Saying…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 16:96

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