Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Breathing
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18The moment before you snap 17Bringing the future closer 17Your nervous system 15Fondness and admiration 15Equanimity and perspective 14Knowing your partner 14Affection and touch 14Get started 13What anger actually is 13Repair after rupture 13Systems for daily life 13Your sense of time 12Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Gratitude 9Grounding and settling 9Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Exercise, food and other supports 6Making it stick 6Remembering to do it 6Rituals of connection 6Shared spiritual life 6Touch and bodywork 6Emotions as signals 5Being seen and judged 5What you are actually defending 5Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Practising under provocation 4Food, caffeine and fuel 4Treatment and medication 4Breathing 4Shame and stigma 4Tolerate distress 4Name what you feel 3Self-compassion 3When you use something to cope 3Question the thought 3The cost of avoiding 3What worry does 3What ADHD actually is 3Safety and grounding 3Facing it a step at a time 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2Ride the urge 2Shame 2Let the wave come 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2When anger turns to harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Hold a boundary 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Calm the body 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Feeling from the inside 1Panic and the body 1Face it gently 1Your window of tolerance 1Keep the bond 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Act on your values 1Listen to the body 1Ask and say no well 1Breaking the worry loop 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1

The famous count is not automatically your count. One teacher finds that adding a pause after the inhale wakes her up, while the plain long exhale has her asleep within three breaths.

Protocols get passed around because they worked for someone, often someone with a large audience. That is not the same as fitting you. Keep the shape…

A minuteBreathingBody basedQur’an 3:191

Breath is the quickest way you have of turning your own nervous system up or down. Nothing else you can simply decide to do works on that timescale.

Your heart rate already rises slightly as you breathe in and falls as you breathe out, on every breath. So changing how you breathe changes something…

A minuteBreathingBody basedQur’an 48:4

The rapid belly driven breath with pauses added is the strongest thing in this set. Not for high blood pressure, glaucoma, pregnancy or your period, and stop at once with pain or dizziness.

It has its uses for the flat, heavy state that comes over people after lunch or during a long low patch, because it pushes upwards rather than down.…

A minuteBreathingBody basedQur’an 38:72

End a practice with a question rather than a conclusion. What do you notice works better than telling someone what should have happened.

If you announce that an exercise is calming, most people will agree with you whether or not it was. Asking leaves room for the honest answer,…

A minuteBreathingBody basedQur’an 50:16

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