Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Theme · Self-compassion
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22Medication and how it works 18The fear underneath anger 18The moment before you snap 17Bringing the future closer 17Fondness and admiration 15Your nervous system 15Affection and touch 14Equanimity and perspective 14Knowing your partner 14What anger actually is 13Get started 13Systems for daily life 13Repair after rupture 13Growing empathy 12Cool the body first 12Your sense of time 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Gratitude 9Grounding and settling 9Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Moving your body 7Rituals of connection 6Making it stick 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Remembering to do it 6Shared spiritual life 6Touch and bodywork 6Screens and attention 5What you are actually defending 5Being seen and judged 5Emotions as signals 5Rebuilding trust 5Shame and stigma 4Tolerate distress 4Treatment and medication 4Breathing 4Food, caffeine and fuel 4Practising under provocation 4Question the thought 3When you use something to cope 3Safety and grounding 3What worry does 3Self-compassion 3What ADHD actually is 3Name what you feel 3The cost of avoiding 3Calm the body 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Ride the urge 2Shame 2Hold a boundary 2When anger turns to harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Facing it a step at a time 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Meaning after harm 2Let the wave come 2Ask and say no well 1Panic and the body 1Face it gently 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Keep the bond 1Act on your values 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Feeling from the inside 1Get it out of your head 1Help someone grieving 1Your window of tolerance 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Breaking the worry loop 1
When

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.

Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.