Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Struggling right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Shame
Shame is visible before it is spoken. Shallow breath, eyes down, shoulders curling in, a voice gone small: the body says it first.
Learn your own version so you can catch it early, and learn to spot it in others without pointing at it like a diagnosis. When you notice the…
Change the sentence from 'I am bad' to 'I am feeling bad right now'. It is a small grammatical move and it changes what you are actually dealing with.
One is a permanent description of you, the other is weather. Weather you can wait out, describe, get curious about, tell someone about. Try saying…
With someone carrying old shame, ask about the closeness itself. Is it alright that I am sitting here with you? Would a bit more space help? Then adjust, and let them see you adjust.
Small changes work best. Shifting your chair back slightly, looking away for a moment, softening your voice, then checking what that was like for…
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