Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · A minute

A minute 3 Five minutes 11 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 2 Me 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 1 Involves someone else 1 On my own 1

Theme · Obsessions and compulsions

Staying regulated in conflict 46 The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 34 Grounding and settling 28 What anger actually is 26 Medication and how it works 25 Your nervous system 25 Systems for daily life 24 Bringing the future closer 22 Answering bids 22 The fear underneath anger 22 Get started 20 Treatment and medication 18 Equanimity and perspective 17 Your sense of time 17 Structure and routine 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Knowing your partner 14 Affection and touch 14 Growing empathy 14 Making it stick 14 Practising under provocation 14 Touch and bodywork 13 Repair after rupture 13 Feelings and focus 12 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Gratitude 9 When everything feels flat 9 Moving your body 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Breathing 9 What ADHD actually is 8 Treatment and medication 8 Being seen and judged 8 Tolerate distress 8 Listening and understanding 8 Remembering to do it 7 Screens and attention 7 Rituals of connection 6 What you are actually defending 6 What worry does 6 Shame and stigma 6 Shared spiritual life 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 5 Emotions as signals 5 Feeling from the inside 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Self-compassion 4 Question the thought 4 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 When you use something to cope 3 Panic and the body 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Calm the body 2 Hold a boundary 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Let the wave come 2 Meaning after harm 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Working with anger 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Rest and pacing 1 Act on your values 1 When you go numb 1 Listen to the body 1 Keep the bond 1 Help someone grieving 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Ask and say no well 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1

Try not to talk the worry through in detail, even with someone kind. Going over the specifics feels like sorting it out, and it is closer to watering it.

Mental review and asking for reassurance are the same move in different clothes. Both give a short drop in distress and a stronger pull next time.…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 13:28

When the words for feelings are not there, ask for a number instead. How much did the handwashing take over this week, one to ten, is a question someone can answer on a bad day.

A number asks far less of a person than a description, which matters when putting feelings into language is hard for them, and you still end up with…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 2:286

Agree a short phrase to use at home. Saying I am having OCD worries tells a parent what is going on without handing them the worry to solve.

Once a parent hears the details they will nearly always try to help by answering, and answering is the thing that feeds it. A label gives them…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 23:97

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