Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesTheme · Ride the urge
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 34Grounding and settling 28What anger actually is 26Your nervous system 25Medication and how it works 25Systems for daily life 24Answering bids 22Bringing the future closer 22The fear underneath anger 22Get started 20Treatment and medication 18Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 17Structure and routine 16Fondness and admiration 15Knowing your partner 14Affection and touch 14Growing empathy 14Making it stick 14Practising under provocation 14Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 13Feelings and focus 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Getting assessed and diagnosed 11Moving your body 9Gratitude 9Breathing 9When everything feels flat 9The cost of avoiding 9Exercise, food and other supports 9Listening and understanding 8Tolerate distress 8What ADHD actually is 8Treatment and medication 8Being seen and judged 8Remembering to do it 7Screens and attention 7What worry does 6Rituals of connection 6Shame and stigma 6Shared spiritual life 6What you are actually defending 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Feeling from the inside 5Rebuilding trust 5Shame 5Emotions as signals 5Self-compassion 4Question the thought 4Name what you feel 3When you use something to cope 3Facing it a step at a time 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Safety and grounding 3When anger turns to harm 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Panic and the body 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Meaning after harm 2Let the wave come 2Validate yourself and others 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Hold a boundary 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Calm the body 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Rest and pacing 1Help someone grieving 1Your window of tolerance 1When you go numb 1Care for yourself in loss 1Act on your values 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Listen to the body 1Ask and say no well 1Get it out of your head 1Face it gently 1Keep the bond 1Letting it out safely 1
When an urge rises, neither fight it nor obey it. Watch it like a wave: it peaks and it falls.
The urge to snap, to check, to give in. Name it, breathe, and let it crest and pass.
Before acting on a strong impulse, wait ten slow breaths. Decide after, not during.
The peak of an urge is brief. A short, deliberate delay lets the thinking mind back in.
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