Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Self-compassion A minute Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 4 Five minutes 7 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 4 A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Self-compassion

Staying regulated in conflict 46 The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 34 Grounding and settling 28 What anger actually is 26 Medication and how it works 25 Your nervous system 25 Systems for daily life 24 Bringing the future closer 22 Answering bids 22 The fear underneath anger 22 Get started 20 Treatment and medication 18 Your sense of time 17 Equanimity and perspective 17 Structure and routine 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Practising under provocation 14 Growing empathy 14 Affection and touch 14 Making it stick 14 Knowing your partner 14 Touch and bodywork 13 Repair after rupture 13 Feelings and focus 12 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 When everything feels flat 9 Gratitude 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Breathing 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Moving your body 9 Listening and understanding 8 Being seen and judged 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Treatment and medication 8 Tolerate distress 8 Remembering to do it 7 Screens and attention 7 Shared spiritual life 6 What you are actually defending 6 Shame and stigma 6 Rituals of connection 6 What worry does 6 Feeling from the inside 5 Emotions as signals 5 Shame 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Question the thought 4 Self-compassion 4 Obsessions and compulsions 3 When you use something to cope 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Panic and the body 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Meaning after harm 2 Working with anger 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Let the wave come 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Hold a boundary 2 Calm the body 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Rest and pacing 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Keep the bond 1 Act on your values 1 When you go numb 1 Ask and say no well 1 Help someone grieving 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Listen to the body 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 In a change 1

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Everyone has something about themselves they wish were different, and something they cannot do reliably however much they mean to. Yours has a name and a good deal of research behind it, which is not the same as being uniquely broken.

Say this carefully, because there is a careless version that does real damage. Everyone is a bit ADHD is not what is meant, and it leaves a person…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 20:115

One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.

Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

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