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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices

The moment before you snap Twenty minutes Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 17 Five minutes 19 Twenty minutes 5 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Me 5 A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 2 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 5 Getting ready for something 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 4 Both of us together 1

Theme · The moment before you snap

Systems for daily life 21 Medication and how it works 19 Moving your body 17 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Get started 11 The cost of avoiding 11 Screens and attention 10 Touch and bodywork 8 Your nervous system 8 Treatment and medication 7 Feelings and focus 7 Shared spiritual life 7 What anger actually is 6 The moment before you snap 5 Bringing the future closer 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Exercise, food and other supports 5 What ADHD actually is 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Grounding and settling 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Growing empathy 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Repair after rupture 4 The fear underneath anger 4 When everything feels flat 4 Rituals of connection 4 Reading, numbers and learning differences 3 Breathing 3 Your sense of time 3 Knowing your partner 3 Making it stick 3 Structure and routine 3 Emotions as signals 3 Rebuilding trust 3 When you use something to cope 2 What worry does 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Answering bids 2 Equanimity and perspective 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Shame and stigma 2 Use your strengths 2 Cool the body first 2 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Practising under provocation 1 Tolerate distress 1 Posture and how you carry yourself 1 Treatment and medication 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 Choosing your response 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Remembering to do it 1

Approach

Core 3 Mindfulness 1 CBT 1

When

After a row 3 Any ordinary day 2

To react is to act again. Some of what fires in you belongs to an older scene, and the person in front of you has simply walked into it.

This is not a way of excusing what you do, it is a way of aiming the work. When a reaction is far bigger than the moment deserves, ask what it…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 13:11

In a bad moment your attention, your seeing and your remembering all narrow onto the threat. So your memory of the row is a partial recording, and so is theirs.

Worth holding on to before you go back over who said what. Neither of you is necessarily lying when the two accounts differ. Starting with here is…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 7:154

If waiting has always been hard for you, and your attention has always been restless, that belongs in the anger picture rather than in a separate story.

Irritability, reactivity and a mind that will not settle often arrive as a set. Working on the anger while ignoring the attention leaves the ground…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 2:268

Most of us rehearse the crushing line we wish we had said. Try spending that same time writing what you would actually like to say next time, and keep it short enough to remember.

Take one real episode from the past week and write two things: what happened, and one sentence you would rather have used. Something like I am…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapCBTQur’an 41:34

Even one go at this leaves you with something. You have seen for yourself that the anger can be handled, and that does not expire when you walk out of the room.

The picture is not killing the anger off. It is closer to getting a big animal under control and walking it home: still strong, still yours, going…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 42:37

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