Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm Twenty minutes Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 9 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 2 Me 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Both of us together 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 19 Screens and attention 18 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 Get started 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Your nervous system 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 What anger actually is 10 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 10 Bringing the future closer 9 The moment before you snap 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Tolerate distress 6 Cool the body first 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Grounding and settling 6 Shame 6 Emotions as signals 6 Remembering to do it 5 Shame and stigma 5 When everything feels flat 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Breathing 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Being seen and judged 4 Choosing your response 4 Growing empathy 4 Repair after rupture 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Rituals of connection 4 What worry does 4 Practising under provocation 3 Structure and routine 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Use your strengths 3 Making it stick 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Knowing your partner 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Answering bids 2 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Safety and grounding 1 Question the thought 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 Listen to the body 1

When someone introduces themselves as an abuser, take the word seriously without treating it as the finding. A label names a category of offence, not what is actually going on in them.

Some people arrive with the language of a programme or a court already fitted to them, and it closes down the question of what drives the behaviour…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 3:135

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

Ask whether the anger is really about this person at all, or whether it is contempt for a whole category of people that happens to have someone standing nearby.

It sounds different once you listen for it. The complaints come out in the plural, about how women are or what wives do, and the particular person in…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 16:90

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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