Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

22 practices

Practising under provocation Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 4 Five minutes 17 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 22 A practitioner 22 My husband or wife 1 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 22 Getting ready for something 16 Struggling right now 8

On your own, or with someone

On my own 19 Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Practising under provocation

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 What anger actually is 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Get started 48 Moving your body 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Bringing the future closer 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Touch and bodywork 38 Feelings and focus 38 When everything feels flat 32 Screens and attention 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 The cost of avoiding 26 Structure and routine 26 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Cool the body first 20 Treatment and medication 20 Emotions as signals 20 What you are actually defending 20 Breathing 19 Repair after rupture 19 Making it stick 19 Being seen and judged 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Shame and stigma 14 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Remembering to do it 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When you use something to cope 11 When anger turns to harm 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Gratitude 9 Facing it a step at a time 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Act on your values 3 Shame 3 Panic and the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Ask and say no well 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Ride the urge 2 Rest and pacing 2 Patience and trust 2 Listen to the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When

Any ordinary day 15 Under stress 4 After a row 3

You can be genuinely indignant and still say the thing evenly. The feeling does not have to travel in your voice.

Notice what actually changes when the heat comes out of it: the words stay, the point stays, the volume and the edge go. It helps to know beforehand…

Five minutesPractising under provocationCBTQur’an 41:34

Go to the gym without the getting ready. No mirror check, no fixing your hair, just train and come home.

This works because it lands exactly where many people quietly keep their worth, and because the real consequences are nil. Nobody there is thinking…

Twenty minutesPractising under provocationCBTQur’an 22:35

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