Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

42 practices

The fear underneath anger Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 18 Five minutes 18 Twenty minutes 4 Longer 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 42 Me 39 Someone I care about 37

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 42 Struggling right now 14 Getting ready for something 5

On your own, or with someone

On my own 38 Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 2

Theme · The fear underneath anger

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 What anger actually is 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Get started 48 Moving your body 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Bringing the future closer 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Feelings and focus 38 Touch and bodywork 38 Screens and attention 32 When everything feels flat 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 Structure and routine 26 The cost of avoiding 26 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 20 What you are actually defending 20 Emotions as signals 20 Cool the body first 20 Making it stick 19 Breathing 19 Repair after rupture 19 Being seen and judged 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Shame and stigma 14 Listening and understanding 13 Remembering to do it 13 Rituals of connection 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When anger turns to harm 11 When you use something to cope 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Gratitude 9 Facing it a step at a time 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Panic and the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Shame 3 Working with anger 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Rest and pacing 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ask and say no well 2 Living with uncertainty 1 When you go numb 1

Approach

Core 39 Trauma informed 3

When

Any ordinary day 20 Under stress 14 After a row 8

Working out where your reaction came from will not switch it off. That is not a failure of your insight, it is simply how the two kinds of memory work.

The story you can tell sits in one system. The flinch sits in another one, older and quicker, and it never learned from explanations. Which means the…

LongerThe fear underneath angerTrauma informedQur’an 13:28

Every incident you get through without looking at it leaves something behind, a charge that goes off a bit quicker next time. Asking for help early is not making a drama of it, it is cheaper than the version that comes later.

People assume an escalating pattern means they are becoming a worse person. More often it means the same route has been practised a few more times…

LongerThe fear underneath angerTrauma informedQur’an 2:186

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