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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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46 practices

Equanimity and perspective Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 14 Five minutes 29 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 46 Me 44 Someone I care about 33 My husband or wife 4

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 46 Struggling right now 16 Getting ready for something 6

On your own, or with someone

On my own 36 Involves someone else 6 Both of us together 4

Theme · Equanimity and perspective

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 What anger actually is 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Moving your body 48 Get started 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Bringing the future closer 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Feelings and focus 38 Touch and bodywork 38 Screens and attention 32 When everything feels flat 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 The cost of avoiding 26 Structure and routine 26 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Cool the body first 20 What you are actually defending 20 Emotions as signals 20 Treatment and medication 20 Breathing 19 Repair after rupture 19 Making it stick 19 Being seen and judged 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Shame and stigma 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Rituals of connection 13 Remembering to do it 13 Listening and understanding 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When you use something to cope 11 When anger turns to harm 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Gratitude 9 Facing it a step at a time 9 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Let the wave come 3 Shame 3 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Calm the body 3 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Ask and say no well 2 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

Mindfulness 33 Core 13

When

Any ordinary day 26 After a row 11 Under stress 8 In a change 1

Take from a bad encounter only what you need to get through it. Then stop, before it hardens into a rule about how things always are.

The mind wants to bank the lesson in the widest form it can: people are like this, that sort never changes, it always goes this way. That is how one…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 25:62

One bad experience with someone in a uniform, or from any group, tells you something real about that encounter. It is not a verdict on everybody who resembles them.

This is not a request to talk yourself out of what you saw. If your wariness was earned, keep it, and keep yourself safe. The narrower move is to let…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 2:286

There are two different jobs here. One is getting through the flare when it is on you. The other is quietly changing, over months, what counts as a flare in the first place.

The first job is breathing, leaving the room, waiting before you reply. The second is slower and less dramatic: the practices that shift what you…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 18:46

Look back at a fight you went out of your way to have and pride is often what was driving. Being right and being respected feel like needs in the moment, and they cost far more than they return.

This changes what there is to work on. Breathing exercises will not touch a fight you are having in order to prove you are somebody. The question…

Twenty minutesEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 28:88

The real skill is not spotting the hole in their reasoning. It is running the same test on the belief you hold most tightly.

Pick something you are sure of, something you would defend at a family dinner, and ask what it would look like if it were only mostly true. Where…

Twenty minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 53:39

This is not a milestone you pass. The two year old's version goes, then a version comes back at twenty two, and again at fifty two, wearing whatever clothes that stage of life provides.

So think maintenance rather than course completion. When conditions change, a new baby, a new manager, an illness in the family, expect the old…

LongerEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 87:17

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