Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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48 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Moving your body
Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70Getting assessed and diagnosed 63Your nervous system 61Staying regulated in conflict 60What anger actually is 60Get started 48Moving your body 48Equanimity and perspective 46Choosing your response 44Bringing the future closer 43The moment before you snap 43The fear underneath anger 42Exercise, food and other supports 41Your sense of time 40Treatment and medication 39Feelings and focus 38Touch and bodywork 38Screens and attention 32When everything feels flat 32What ADHD actually is 30Growing empathy 28Grounding and settling 27Structure and routine 26The cost of avoiding 26Knowing your partner 25Answering bids 24Food, caffeine and fuel 24What worry does 23Practising under provocation 22Treatment and medication 20What you are actually defending 20Emotions as signals 20Cool the body first 20Making it stick 19Breathing 19Repair after rupture 19Being seen and judged 18Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Righteous anger and perfectionism 16Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 15Breaking the worry loop 14Shame and stigma 14Listening and understanding 13Remembering to do it 13Rituals of connection 13Feeling from the inside 12When anger turns to harm 11When you use something to cope 11Tolerate distress 10Reading, numbers and learning differences 10Gratitude 9Facing it a step at a time 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Anger, alcohol and the body 6Obsessions and compulsions 6Question the thought 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Your worth is not conditional 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Panic and the body 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Shame 3Working with anger 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Patience and trust 2Validate yourself and others 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Listen to the body 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Rest and pacing 2Face it gently 2Ride the urge 2Care for yourself in loss 2Ask and say no well 2Living with uncertainty 1When you go numb 1
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Talk first, move second. Ending a hard conversation with something physical gives the body a route back down.

This works for a therapy group and it works for an evening at home. Say the difficult thing, then walk, stretch, wash up, anything that puts you back…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 62:10

Unstructured play in a big open space settles a child. A structured class teaches them how to be with other children. You want some of each, for different reasons.

If you only ever book the class, you take away the roaming that calms them down. If you only ever send them out to roam, they miss the taking turns…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 71:19

Whatever gets you outside and quiet for a stretch of time counts. Fishing, sitting in a hide, weeding, waiting in the car park with the window down.

Nobody has to call it mindfulness for it to work like mindfulness. Hours of low demand attention outdoors, with nothing much required of you, is the…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:24

Martial arts happen to bundle four useful things at once: hard physical work, a fixed structure, feedback in the moment, and a teacher who stays. That is why they suit restless minds so well.

Any one of those on its own helps a little. Together they cover the arousal, the shapelessness of time, the need for a reward that arrives today…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 34:11

A practice kept up for years stops being something you do and becomes part of who you are. That is when it no longer needs willpower.

People who started something physical as children and carried on often point to it as where their steadiness came from. The early years are the…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:54

Keep a movement practice going long enough and your body starts doing it without you. People who have practised for decades describe the form running itself while their mind is elsewhere.

In the early months it takes all your concentration, which is why it feels expensive. Later it stops asking for that, and you get the calm without…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:2

With a small child who is struggling with both movement and speech, start with the body. Balance and steadiness come before a child can take in much language or learning.

A child who is using most of what they have simply to stay upright in a chair has little left for the words on the page. Sorting out the physical…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 40:64

An hour a day of moving enough to warm you and shorten your breath. Keep a record of it, on a watch or on a scrap of paper, because meeting a number you can see turns out to be quietly satisfying.

It does not have to arrive in one block and it does not have to look like exercise. Walking to the shop, taking the stairs, standing at the desk for…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:40

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