Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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63 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed
Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70Getting assessed and diagnosed 63Your nervous system 61Staying regulated in conflict 60What anger actually is 60Get started 48Moving your body 48Equanimity and perspective 46Choosing your response 44Bringing the future closer 43The moment before you snap 43The fear underneath anger 42Exercise, food and other supports 41Your sense of time 40Treatment and medication 39Feelings and focus 38Touch and bodywork 38Screens and attention 32When everything feels flat 32What ADHD actually is 30Growing empathy 28Grounding and settling 27The cost of avoiding 26Structure and routine 26Knowing your partner 25Answering bids 24Food, caffeine and fuel 24What worry does 23Practising under provocation 22Cool the body first 20What you are actually defending 20Emotions as signals 20Treatment and medication 20Breathing 19Repair after rupture 19Making it stick 19Being seen and judged 18Shared spiritual life 17Rebuilding trust 17Righteous anger and perfectionism 16Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Shame and stigma 14Breaking the worry loop 14Rituals of connection 13Remembering to do it 13Listening and understanding 13Feeling from the inside 12When you use something to cope 11When anger turns to harm 11Tolerate distress 10Reading, numbers and learning differences 10Gratitude 9Facing it a step at a time 9Self-compassion 8Use your strengths 8Obsessions and compulsions 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Let the wave come 3Shame 3Act on your values 3Panic and the body 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Name what you feel 3Calm the body 3Listen to the body 2Your window of tolerance 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Rest and pacing 2Work with your brain 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Patience and trust 2Validate yourself and others 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Ride the urge 2Ask and say no well 2When you go numb 1Living with uncertainty 1
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A clinician trained thoroughly in autism and ADHD may know almost nothing about coordination or reading difficulties, and can spend years working above foundations nobody ever checked. Ask yourself which of those categories your own training left out.

Go back over a handful of old cases rather than only reading about it. Where a child made less progress than you expected, ask what you never…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 20:114

Processing speed is the stubborn one. It shifts a little with repeated, rhythmically paced practice and hardly at all with explanation, so say that to a family at the start rather than when they are disappointed.

Teaching a strategy will not make a slow processor quick, and telling a child to hurry up only makes the work more unpleasant. Graded practice with…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 18:69

Assess, make a plan, do the work, and then keep measuring while you do it. Without that last part you have no way of knowing whether to push harder, change direction or stop.

Use more than one stream: your own measures, what parents notice at home, what school reports, and what the child says about it. Children will tell…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 42:38

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