Practices

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Theme · Ask and say no well

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 What anger actually is 60 Get started 48 Moving your body 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Bringing the future closer 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Touch and bodywork 38 Feelings and focus 38 When everything feels flat 32 Screens and attention 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 Structure and routine 26 The cost of avoiding 26 Knowing your partner 25 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 Answering bids 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Emotions as signals 20 What you are actually defending 20 Treatment and medication 20 Cool the body first 20 Making it stick 19 Repair after rupture 19 Breathing 19 Being seen and judged 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Shame and stigma 14 Listening and understanding 13 Rituals of connection 13 Remembering to do it 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When you use something to cope 11 When anger turns to harm 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Facing it a step at a time 9 Gratitude 9 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Question the thought 5 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Panic and the body 3 Shame 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Ride the urge 2 Rest and pacing 2 Patience and trust 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Ask and say no well 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Be firm and warm at once: gentle tone, steady eyes, clear ask. Neither doormat nor bulldozer.

Softness of manner and firmness of content are not opposites. Hold the point kindly.

A minuteAsk and say no wellDBT skillsQur’an 31:19

Ask plainly: name the facts, say how you feel, say what you want, in a few clear sentences.

Drop the hinting. State the situation, your feeling, and the request. Clear is kind.

Five minutesAsk and say no wellDBT skillsQur’an 17:53

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