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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesTheme · Choosing your response
When · After a row
Those first three circles were reactions rather than actions. Something old moved your hand, and you learned what it had decided at the same moment everyone else did.
This is why people say, honestly, that they did not decide to say the thing they said. The words were out before anything you would call choosing had…
The relief people describe afterwards has little to do with clever insight. It is the feeling of being back behind the wheel, which is a large change if you have been living as though other people operate you.
She made me. He knows exactly which button to press. Both can be true about the provocation and still leave the response yours. Notice that this is…