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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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3 practicesTheme · Cool the body first
How long you have
Approach · Mindfulness
When · Any ordinary day
Anger pulls your attention towards whatever provoked it, the way a vacuum cleaner pulls at a curtain. Naming it that way makes it something happening to you rather than something wrong with you.
Rumination is an accurate word and a heavy one, and people who already feel judged tend to close up when it appears. A picture does the same job…
If open awareness sounds like too much, put it plainly: look at the background instead of the thing in front of it. That is the entire instruction.
People who bounce off contemplative language will happily follow a physical direction about where to point their eyes. Say background, say the space…
Open gazing and long unfocused staring do not suit everyone. If things start to feel unreal or far away, stop and look at something you can name.
This caution is usually left out, and it should not be. Practices that are open, unguided and without an anchor are the ones most often followed by…