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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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43 practicesTheme · The moment before you snap
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Approach · Mindfulness
It helps to get one real taste of this early, in a single sitting, rather than waiting weeks to find out whether any of it is for you.
A first go that actually works gives you a reason to come back, and plenty of people never do come back. But one sitting builds nothing on its own.…
Even one go at this leaves you with something. You have seen for yourself that the anger can be handled, and that does not expire when you walk out of the room.
The picture is not killing the anger off. It is closer to getting a big animal under control and walking it home: still strong, still yours, going…
This started as a way to stop yourself snapping, and it will do that. It also happens to be a way of noticing your whole life while you are in it.
The same watching works on wanting, on worrying, on the hour you lose to your phone. Anger is just the doorway you came in through, usually because…