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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesTheme · The moment before you snap
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Approach
The alarm stores as well as reacts. Every flare that ends badly teaches it a little, and so does every one you handle gently.
That is why triggers pile up over a lifetime, and why one calm response never feels like it changed anything. It is doing work you cannot see yet.…
This started as a way to stop yourself snapping, and it will do that. It also happens to be a way of noticing your whole life while you are in it.
The same watching works on wanting, on worrying, on the hour you lose to your phone. Anger is just the doorway you came in through, usually because…