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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme
What anger actually is 8The fear underneath anger 5The moment before you snap 5Righteous anger and perfectionism 4When anger turns to harm 4Growing empathy 3Practising under provocation 3Cool the body first 2Making it stick 2Choosing your response 2Equanimity and perspective 2Anger, alcohol and the body 2What you are actually defending 1
How long you have · Twenty minutes
A minute 86Five minutes 204Twenty minutes 43Longer 34
Approach
Core 26Mindfulness 5Medical and treatment 5CBT 4Trauma informed 1Gottman 1Body based 1
When · Any ordinary day
Any ordinary day 43After a row 8Under stress 7When apart 1

Sometimes the row is not really about the row. Some people reach for conflict because it is the one thing that makes them feel properly awake.

If you notice you feel sharp and alive during an argument and flat afterwards, that is worth sitting with rather than being ashamed of. The need…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 70:19

Before treating a temper as a character problem, check the body. Poor sleep, hunger, a new medication, drinking, a head injury and a number of neurological conditions all show up as a short fuse.

This matters most when the change is recent. Somebody even tempered for forty years who is now flying off at nothing has usually got something…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 21:37

A small child works out how to feel about itself by looking at its parents' faces. If that face was missing, or busy, the looking does not stop, it just moves on to teachers, coaches, friends and strangers.

It is part of why being disrespected can feel so much larger than the moment deserves. Some of that old search is still running. The work is slow and…

Twenty minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 50:16