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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesTheme · Choosing your response
How long you have · Twenty minutes
When · Under stress
A break only counts if you come back. Notice the anger, leave the room, actually settle yourself, then return and finish the conversation.
Most people manage the leaving and skip the settling, so they spend twenty minutes rehearsing their case and come back more wound up than when they…
You may need to leave and come back two or three times before one conversation is finished. That is normal, not a sign that the skill is not working.
Bodies come down slowly. You can feel steady enough to return, sit down, hear one sentence and be right back at the top again. Knowing that in…