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Low mood and hard feelings

Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.

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Shame Five minutes Under stress Clear all

Theme · Shame

Tolerate distress 5 Question the thought 3 When everything feels flat 2 When you use something to cope 2 Shame 2 Letting it out safely 1 Emotions as signals 1 Working with anger 1 Calm the body 1

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 3 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 3

Approach

Emotionally focused 1 Trauma informed 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 3 After a row 2 Under stress 2

Shame does something cruel. It makes you want to disappear from the very person whose warmth would settle it, so if you notice yourself going quiet and pulling back, that pull is the shame talking rather than the truth about you.

Watch for the small retreats. Not answering a message, keeping an answer short, changing the subject when someone asks how you are. You do not have…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:53

If you can see shame arriving in someone, say so gently and make it welcome. Something like: it looks like there is some shame here, and it is alright that it came.

Naming it does the opposite of exposing it. Left unnamed it works away in private, and the person assumes you have noticed and are judging. Said out…

Five minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 3:135