Focus, starting, and ADHD

The unkind thoughts tend to arrive in a handful of familiar shapes. One friend is busy so nobody wants you. One bad mark so you are going to fail everything. Someone did not say hello so they must dislike you.

Rather than fighting the content, try naming the shape: that is the all or nothing one, that is the mind reading one. Most people find they only have…

When you genuinely cannot know what someone thought of you, the harsh guess is no more accurate than the kind one. Since you are inventing either way, invent the version that lets you carry on with your day.

This is not positive thinking. It is noticing the moment you moved from evidence to invention, because at that point you get a say. A short reply…

Try turning 'I will not mess this up today' into 'today I am going to do this well'. You do not have to believe it yet. Said the other way round, it keeps the disaster in front of you all morning.

Notice how many of your goals are stated as things that must not happen. Do not be late, do not lose your temper, do not forget the form. Each one…

Picture spilling coffee down your shirt on the way in. One version: the day is ruined and everyone will see. Another: this is going to be a good story by eleven. Same coffee, two different days.

The part that decides is the sentence you say about the event, and it usually arrives so fast that it feels like part of the event itself. Slowing…

Put something small at stake and you turn up more. Groups that charge a token amount get better attendance than free ones, and the same trick works on yourself.

It does not have to be money. Book the class you would have to cancel a day ahead, tell a friend you will meet them there, pay the small deposit. The…