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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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2 practicesTheme · Feelings and focus
How long you have · A minute
Approach
When · After a row
When you genuinely cannot know what someone thought of you, the harsh guess is no more accurate than the kind one. Since you are inventing either way, invent the version that lets you carry on with your day.
This is not positive thinking. It is noticing the moment you moved from evidence to invention, because at that point you get a say. A short reply…
Halfway up the argument, ask yourself one question. What do I want here, and who am I trying to be. Winning the sentence is rarely worth what it costs by bedtime.
It is a simple move and it is genuinely hard, because the moment is loud and the long view is quiet. A short version helps. Not in front of the…