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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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2 practices

Answering bids Core Under stress Clear all

Theme · Answering bids

Staying regulated in conflict 4 Answering bids 2 Affection and touch 1

Approach · Core

Emotionally focused 5 Core 2 Gottman 2

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2 Something good 2

Ask which kind of support they want today rather than deciding for them.

Sometimes it is help, sometimes only company; asking spares you both the wrong gift.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 42:38

Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.

Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 42:38