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Your marriage
What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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2 practicesTheme · Staying regulated in conflict
How long you have · Five minutes
Approach · Core
Name the softer feeling underneath the anger.
Before you speak, ask what you were afraid of, not what you were angry about. Usually it is something like: they are giving up on me, or I do not…
Take ten quiet minutes to decompress before you walk in the door.
Arriving already softened means the day's stress is not spent on the person you love.