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Your marriage
What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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3 practicesTheme · Knowing your partner
How long you have · A minute
Approach · Core
Ask a follow-up question instead of offering your own view.
Curiosity says you are still worth discovering; advice can quietly say the opposite.
Ask what makes them feel most cared for, and then believe the answer.
Our usual gestures are often for the person we imagine, not the one in front of us.
Reference something they told you last week, unprompted.
Remembering the small details of their life is quiet proof that they were truly heard.