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What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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2 practicesTheme · Staying regulated in conflict
How long you have · Twenty minutes
Take the full twenty minutes. Five is not enough.
Physiological recovery from flooding takes longer than it feels like it should. If you come back after five minutes you are still carrying it. Take…
Write about your last argument as a stranger who wants you both to do well.
Take twenty minutes. Describe your most recent argument from the point of view of a neutral third party who wants the best for both of you. Do not…